I've never been a fan of biting my tongue but over the last few years I have learned that emotional rants or arguments are never as effective as I would like them to be so I am practicing the art of diplomacy.
Having a blog gives people the ability to type words on a forum that gives them a public voice but it also allows them to hide behind their computers spouting off negativity, and walking that fine line of being an online bully.
First rule of being FIERCE
Never say online about someone what you wouldn't say to their face
Now that is easier said than done for most people because they have a sense of security hiding behind anonymous blog comments, an online persona, or a Social Media handle.
Passive aggressive tweeting, blogging or other forms of childish behaviour should not be engaged. If you feel like you are being attacked in a non-confrontational way, keep the following things in mind:
- The online world doesn't actually revolve around you. This goes with any Tweets, Facebook status updates or blogs you may see, even if the Twit/FB Friend/blogger is someone you know personally. Sometimes... a post is just a post.
- If a Tweet/FB status/Blog triggers you and you assume that it is automatically about you, examine why it triggered you in the first place. Perhaps it is your own issue or guilty conscience that causes you to react or take it personally.
- Consider whether it's worth your time and energy. If you have the extra time and energy to spend worrying about whether or not someone is talking about you, try using that extra time and energy to engage in a positive activity.
Don't walk on eggshells,
dance on them!
Minding your Ps & Qs is dependent on your personality and what you hope to accomplish with your brand, business or life in general.
For me, pushing the boundaries and using "rules" as mere guidelines works because I have never enjoyed fitting in or living a cookie-cutter life. I swear as much in real life as I do online but it doesn't make me a less effective communicator or unrefined despite the standards of some people.
Danielle LaPorte once wrote, "you can say 'Fuck' with compassion in your heart."
I love that line because too often people are judged by others who don't live up to their standards. Well you know what? That's there issue, not yours.
If your personality is brash, bold, outrageous and inappropriate then embrace that. BE that person but use your powers for good, not evil.
If you are more reserved and polite, then embrace it. But again, use those powers for good, not evil.
There is no "right" personality combination there is only acceptance of WHO YOU ARE.
But never feel like you have to conform to meet someone else's idea of who you SHOULD be.
Just don't be a chicken.
Be brave. Be You. Be FIERCE!
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